Do you have any fears that you’d like to overcome?
They’re not yours, you’ve inherited them from in some cases parents, in some cases teachers, and in some cases probably even other family members.
Did you know that you’re only born with two fears? Loud noises and falling. Every other single fear you have has been learnt through observation.
I have a three-year-old son so it’s really interesting, because he’s in that neuroplastic stage of borrowing fears.
He came up to me the other day and goes, “Daddy, daddy, I’m scared”. I said, “What are you scared of?”
“Ohh I’m scared of ghosts”.
I said, “Son, that’s not your fear, that’s somebody else’s, you can let it go, it’s not yours”.
He literally learned it from Paw Patrol in a Halloween segment. There was a ghost and it wasn’t even scary but the suggestion to the characters was that a ghost was scary and so he borrowed it.
I have said to Kris I don’t want him watching that episode anymore because that’s not his fear and I don’t want him borrowing it, because if you borrow something and then you never give it back, what does it become? Yours.
Loud noises and falling, they’re yours.
Every other fear that you’ve had, or that you have right now, you borrowed it and you forgot to give it back.
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