Most people don’t know I used to suffer from debilitating anxiety and a supreme lack of confidence.

These are the steps I took to deal with it.

Some people think I was born with massive amounts of confidence and the truth is, I wasn’t.

Growing up, I was a shy, nervous little kid, and I learned how to build confidence over time. And I suffered from anxiety for a very long period of time and most people don’t even know that. But the truth is, the way that I dealt with my anxiety and the way that I dealt with my issues around my confidence was just by constantly putting myself in a situation where I that I had to do what it is that was creating the anxiety.

Or I had to do the things that were making me feel uncomfortable.

I think it was Tony Robbins who said, “The quality of your life will be in direct proportion to the amount of discomfort that you can comfortably live with.”

Discomfort Builds Confidence

And I actually genuinely believe that discomfort builds confidence.

But repetition isn’t necessarily just a mother of skill. Repetition is also the father of confidence.

And if you want to have skill and confidence, just keep doing the things that you want to be confident in.

I remember the first time I spoke on stage. I was f’ing terrible. I was horrible. But I kept doing. And I kept going, and slowly but surely the anxiety started to wane. Slowly but surely the confidence started to build, and slowly but surely I became a great speaker.

Find something that you want to build confidence in and go and do it today.

Kerwin Rae