The biggest challenge that people have with being themselves is that they don’t know who they are. It’s no wonder then that so many people spend too much time comparing themselves to the insta perfect life, perfect body, friends and bank account.
What they’re actually searching for is a shortcut to self acceptance.
My journey to the levels of comfort, authenticity and vulnerability that I enjoy now, is a product of decades of deeply uncomfortable, painful yet rewarding work. It’s absolute self discovery to be able to say to myself, ‘This is who I am and I’m okay with me’.
In fact, I quite like me – a lot.
And who I am now will likely change tomorrow, if not in the next 15 minutes, let alone the next 10 years.
For me having a level of acceptance has been the key. I accept who I am in each moment and who I am becoming every day.
We are all like rivers that constantly change in depth, flow and current.
Look at a stream, in every moment it changes as new water comes flooding in bringing with it new life as it carries out the dead wood.
The more I find out who I am, I know that I’m a tight shirt, jeans and sneakers kind of guy.
Sure I can wear a suit, but it ain’t me baby.
I wore suits for over a decade and hated it. I hated wearing them, hated how they looked and hated how they felt against my skin. I wore a suit because I thought it would make me more credible.
Now I know that if someone can’t take me seriously in a t-shirt, jeans and sneakers – then maybe they won’t take me seriously anyway.
I know my soul and spirit, my personality and intuitive nature and my intellect will prevail.
The only way you’ll know who you are is by spending time with yourself and coming clean with who you are, inside and out, and being ok with what you find.
It’s not about beating yourself up to create change it’s about accepting who you are so that you are free to blossom without the resistance and guilt of self judgment.
After all this time my biggest lesson is… I love who I am and who I am becoming, and I love who you are and also who you are becoming.
We have a long way to go and we can move quicker if we stick together as a team, then also if we allow ourselves to put our bags down.
It’s hard to move quickly in life when you are weighed down by things, thoughts and beliefs, that we carry around with us that we could simply let go of.
I love you all so much, thank you for giving me the platform to share my life with you.
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