Nothing bothers me more than a needy person and I know I’m not the only one.
It’s probably one of the most unattractive qualities a human can have. And once you display that clingy, needy desperation, it’s hard to get respect.
Neediness is that thing where you always want more because whatever you have is not enough.
Needy people are constantly clingy, and asking, and demanding for more. And frankly, it’s a repellent.
They want validation. They suck up your time. And they are always pining for more of what they feel they don’t have.
Because here’s the thing. On a fundamental level, humans don’t trust needy people because they come across as unstable and in some cases volatile.
And this message isn’t for a direct few because I have no doubt that at some point or another, we have all displayed an element of neediness.
But whether it’s in relationships, business or both, neediness will derail you and repel those you love the most.
So how do we become less needy?
It’s simple – want nothing.
Come into every situation as if you’ve got everything that you already need.
Drop the ego and become completely unattached to any outcome you think you need in order to be ok.
You are enough. You just being you is enough. You don’t NEED anything externally to validate that.
Because I honestly believe that every single person has everything they need within them to get to where they want to go.
Desperation and lack are not attractive qualities, so leave them behind.
Drop the neediness.
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