Theodore Roosevelt was way ahead of his time, you know. A great quote he said was, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
You know, when you look at social media and the increase in mental health issues, often it’s coming about as a result of comparison.
People are comparing themselves to others who they think are more happy than them, but all they’re looking at is the material aspects of their life.
They’re just looking at how they look on the outside; at how pretty they are, how good their body is, what brand or style bikini or board shorts they’re wearing. What kind of car are they driving? What kind of house do they live in? You know, where do they go on holidays?
The comparison of material objects is actually about avoiding their own lives and what they have. They assume by looking at someone’s insta-perfect world, that the people who have it are happy. The fact is, often they’re not.
Some of the most miserable people I’ve met are some of the most successful people you could know. Some of the most unhappy people that I’ve met are some of the most glamorous people on Instagram.
It’s just the image that they portray, but those looking on and following haven’t worked that out yet.
Social media just amplifies the tendency that people have to compare themselves to others.
Once upon a time we had to wait until the newspaper came out or until Women’s Weekly came out, or we watched a certain TV program to be able to compare ourselves and feel miserable.
Now, we can feel miserable from the moment we wake up because we just pull our phones from under our pillow and we start looking at Instagram.
Look, you might find hundreds of reasons in your feed to feel miserable if you really want to go to town comparing looks, bodies, and clothes, and whatever else.
I just don’t think social media is the issue.
I think social media has created a much greater level of access to the ability for us to compare ourselves to others and things that we either want or that we don’t have. That’s what subsequently creates, you know, levels of unhappiness.
So, stop comparing yourself, regardless of whatever method you’re doing it in.
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