If you want to change your behaviours then you’ve got to have a strong, compelling reason to be sober, and the reason needs to be from you. If you don’t have a strong, compelling reason to stay sober then you’re probably gonna have a stronger, compelling reason to use.
So what I will say is this.
You need to have a very hard level of self-awareness and you need to admit that there’s a real and apparent issue. You need to be willing to get help when it is required if you can’t fundamentally make the shift on your own.
The reason for the shift to stay sober must come from within you and be fundamentally bigger, because if it’s something outside you the moment it disappears, your motivation will go.
It needs to be a long-term commitment to sobriety with a level of surrender to understanding that addiction work is journey work, you know?
It’s not something that’s going to happen without your commitment. You’re not gonna wave a magic wand, or simply speak to a doctor or a therapist, enter rehab and come out and you’re gonna be fixed, or cured. This is work that you’ll be continuing for the rest of your life,
So my advice is learn to appreciate the journey.
Learn to appreciate the work.
Something I’m going to dovetail back into here is, that you’ll need to start going into the traumas or to the wounds from old, from your childhood, or from wherever they are that they’re coming up, and start to heal those wounds.
The reason that people self medicate with a kind of addiction, is because there’s an underlying pain, underlying trauma, so there’s a level of vulnerability required by you to go into some of the areas that you might not want to.
This will bring some of the old stuff that’s maybe still a little bit… a little bit sore and a little bit festering, and by finally giving it the opportunity to air, you’ll gain a new perspective so that you can heal.
Often times, what you and the old traumas need to heal, is just a new perspective.
I’m not a fan of people just bringing up old trauma for the sake of talking about old trauma, especially in the context of addiction, because that’s the type of thing that can fire someone off and trigger them back into a relapse.
What I’m very pro on is helping people rediscover old trauma with new meaning, rediscover old trauma with a new perspective. When it’s done with the right help in the right way with a professional, it can be an incredibly powerful way to remember old things in new ways that create new and empowered meanings.
This helps the process of healing the old trauma and those wounds, which in many cases removes the pain, the pain an addict uses and is looking to minimize.
Find a reason within yourself that you can make a long-term commitment to, and do the work, the journey work.
So hopefully that gives you a little bit of an insight into something you can do.
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